Someone once told me that as a woman, I would be able to live out my dreams once my husband died and that, until then, I was to do as he wanted.

This, quite possibly, in fact, absolutely was the biggest load of shit I have ever heard! Even more ridiculous than this statement is that it was delivered to me by another woman who I, for some time, believed.

What the actual fuck.

If my husband believes that I must abide by his dreams and his plans and that mine are all invalid, then he has married the wrong woman. Luckily I think he knows that or, at the very least, he is about to find out.

We, as women, do not give up our dreams and our lives and our plans just because we don’t have a dick between our legs.

We do not flail about like we are in the middle of a goddam ocean awaiting prince charming to rescue us.

We are fucking women. Glorious fucking women. Capable of so many insanely awesome things and without us, the men in our lives would be lost little people with their hands down their pants.

So, don’t let anyone else tell you who you should be to others. Don’t let them tell you how to live your life, how to be in a relationship or how to do love and partnership.

In any relationship, we all have to make some sacrifices and put in a whole lot of teamwork. It’s called having a balance. If you do exactly what one part of the team wants to do all of the time, then your scales are eventually going to tip the fuck over.

Don’t let that happen.

Coz if you do you are not only ripping yourself off, but you are also ripping off your partner by not allowing them to know who you really are and what you really want from life. We only get one chance.

Sure you may hit a few brick walls initially. Your partner, of course, has become accustomed to your yes-sir-no-sir-three-bags-full-sir-oh-and-how-high-did-you-want-me-to-jump-sir ways. But the brick walls eventually start to crumble – either that or you get sick of beating your head against it and decide to make a fucken change for the better.

So saddle up ladies! It is time to stand up once and for all. We didn’t need saving, we are not helpless and we choose to walk beside our partners with love and mutual respect all the way til the end of our days as long as they choose that too.

LD xo